Let’s rediscover the art of proper communication... it’s National Conversation Week20 March 2019
This week it’s National Conversation Week, which has got me thinking about what ‘proper communication’ means. When did you last have a proper conversation with someone in your life? And no I don’t mean via text message or social media! In these days of instant messaging and smartphone technology it can be very easy to lose sight of the power of face-to-face conversations, or even a simple chat on the phone.
Proper communication... what’s it all about?
Why is conversation so important? Well, think about it. When you talk to someone and okay, I’ll count Skype or FaceTime here you can see their facial expressions, their body language, hear their tone of voice, see what makes them light up. Emojis are great, don’t get me wrong, but a little round yellow smiley face is NOT a good replacement for seeing someone you love break out into a full-on smile! And a phone call seems very old fashioned these days, but at least it’s a proper two-way thing... you let your conversation flow and it can take you in all kinds of directions. You just don’t get that when you let technology replace your own voice.
Look, I live in the same world as you. I’m always on social media, you know how much I love Instagram, and life is busy. We don’t all have time to spend hours talking to our neighbours or phoning people up every night. I get that. And I think it’s great that we have the means and ability to get in touch with people all over the world at pretty much any time. I mean for me it’s particularly brilliant I went to boarding school so a lot of my friends are literally now scattered all over the globe! But I love to break out the Skype every now and then to check in with my friends and see their lovely faces!
I’ve written before about taking a social media break. And once in a while this can feel really liberating, like a pressure has been removed from your shoulders. You can live in the moment, be really mindful and just enjoy your day without worrying about having to document every single second. I’ll admit I wouldn’t be without my social media for too long, but every now and then it’s good to have a break.
We all know by now the power of a good support network for us eczema warriors. It’s good to talk to your tribe any way you can, especially if you’re feeling a bit low or need some extra support. But remember, talking doesn’t always have to be deep and meaningful. Laughing, talking about the lighter stuff in life, or just talking about your favourite books and movies is important too.
My conversation challenge
So I’m setting a little challenge for you lovelies! Camille’s Conversation Challenge. Next time you pick your phone up to message someone, ask yourself when you last actually spoke to them. If having a conversation isn’t feasible there and then come on, we live in the real world! then why not just ask them if they fancy a chat sometime soon? Lots of people, me included, like to plan these things in, so you could make a date in your diary for a FaceTime call. Little tip for you, if you’re speaking to someone overseas remember the time difference! It might be morning for you and evening for them or vice versa but you can figure out what works best for you.
It doesn’t just need to be one-on-one either getting together with a group of friends just to hang out and enjoy each other’s company is one of the best ways of spending your time. If you’ve got local friends, why not just plan an evening together chilling out and chatting. We so often wait for a special occasion to do this, but this really doesn’t have to be the case!
You can be a good neighbour, too. I don’t mean start turning up with cups of sugar and making a nuisance out of yourself! But saying hello and asking how are you is never going to be a bad thing. If you’ve got elderly neighbours especially if they live alone you could just pop round once in a while to see if they need anything.
Social media and technology have opened up the world. But every now and then it’s good to dial things back a little, and remember some of the more simple things in life. A good conversation is one of them.
Lots of love, Camille xx